Dale's arguments:
"I chose to be trained in the Phil Parker Lightning Process after having spent 5 year in a marriage that was mostly good but contained regular quite horrible arguments. Each time we had an argument, while the argument itself was painful, it would also result in a lack of love and intimacy being present for quite some time afterwards. And in fact probably capped the amount of love and intimacy we could ever really experience.
I put off attending the training for quite some time because I was sure that the cause of the arguments wasn’t me and that we could resolve them ourselves if we but put a little effort into it. Ultimately though to cut a long story short I realised that it was affecting my happiness just as much as my wife’s and if there was something I could do about it then it was worth doing.
I attended the training and found it so ridiculously straight forward and simple (due to the wonderful way that Phil has designed it and leads it) that I wondered what the fuss was about until I got home. Because my issues don’t arise as frequently as say issues such as ME I was expecting to have to practice over several weeks before noticing any difference. Instead what I found was that it worked straight away.
I got home and immediately a situation that would previously have resulted in an argument arose and immediately I responded exactly as trained such that I remained relaxed, calm, peaceful and most importantly in love with my wife while she continued to try and have an argument with me. In fact because my wife was not getting the normal response from me she got even angrier than normal and I got even more peaceful.
However once it was over, it was over immediately. There were no lingering effects and we were still totally in love with each other. This has happened plenty of times since the training which was now about 4 weeks ago. In fact its probably true to say that that number of times these occur has now dropped off as well.
I can say with total confidence that arguments for me are a thing of the past and this is an issue that I expected to have to deal with for the rest of my life because it is a trait that my father has.
In addition I gained the following unexpected benefits, a real freedom from worry & stress and an ability to be really present whenever I notice that I’m not.
Thank you Phil Parker with all my heart."
Dale Burrell – May 2006